How to be more confident: 5 policies that worked in the me

Last updated November 3, 2016.

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Today we will have five effective strategies that you can use.

These strategies come from my personal experience, and all of them play a key role in developing my own self-confidence.Instead of keeping you out of the way, I’ll tell you what they’re worth:

If this brief overview is enough to help you take action and build confidence in yourself, come out and start building it …

Otherwise, sit tight and hold a finger over the wheel of the scroll on your mouse; then, I will dig into each of these strategies, share how I personally implemented them, and demonstrate how you can use them in your own life ..

Simply put, getting skills and experience in any discipline will make you more confident when you do it. The key should look.

William Jennings Bryan, who was the US Secretary of State from 1913 to 1915, put it this way:

“the path to the development of self-confidence is to do what you are afraid of and gain experience of successful experience.”

Brian was a man who was backed up by his actions; as a presidential candidate, he conceded.

In fact, he is a man who was credited with a “diving tour”-in that age, the presidential candidates mostly stayed at home. His efforts paid off; though he did not win the presidential election of 1896, he received the presidential nomination from the Democratic Party-and he was (and still is) the youngest to do it in any major party, while only 36 at the time …

Despite his political success, Brian is known as one of the greatest speakers in the history of America. No doubt, trust and passion, which helped him to earn that reputation, was built for a little while.

Regardless of the skill in which you want to become more confident,

It was said, I’m not gonna leave it in the Shiite language, “Just do it!” cliché. We can keep digging, and that’s because we have.

The second type of experience is important for recognition, as it can help you build confidence.

Here are some examples that illustrate this point …

Example #1: Scyring.

Ski is probably my absolute.

But, in a cruel twist of fate, I grew up in the flat plains of Iowa. No good ski sports can be found close to where I live; as a result, I ski 6-7 times in my life-one day on a tiny little hill here in Iowa, and a couple of three-day trips to Colorado …

But what’s interesting is, though I didn’ t waste any time on the slopes, I could ski.The reason I can do that, despite the relative lack of direct experience on the slopes, is that I started.

I got into it when my friend asked me to take a base class on speed skating because he wanted to start playing hockey and had to learn. I thought it sounded fun, so I said, of course, but I had to buy skates. And since I didn’ t know exactly what I wanted to do with ice skating (ice hockey and the figure that sounded the same), the guy at the skateboard recommended me to start learning a couple of figures …

When I got into it, I found skating to be tons of fun. In addition, since I have spent a lot of my teen skating on skateboarding and rollerbading, I have taken it quite quickly (another example of indirect experience has been advantageous) ..

Ever since I’ve made good progress in my classes and I’ve had fun, I’ve decided to kick things. I started showing the sessions of solo practice, after all, working to train for five days a week. Shortly after that, I hired a professional coach-who turned out to be.

Then, in March 2016, I went on a ski trip with my friend.

I remember if a couple of months in figure skating would help me to ski; after all, both operations meant glide through the frozen surface at high speeds ..

What I found is this.

Example #2: Public.

To complete the previous example, let’ s look at something more professional-

I’m not sure I call myself a professional speaker, but last year it became a significant part of my business. In addition to making videos on YouTube and launching this site, I am now.

When I get up on the stage, I have one.

However, this is not always the same. I was right at the beginning of the high school.

Despite all the odds, I’ve been through these early oratorical deals. When I got to my junior year at high school, I took a renal class that really helped me calm my nerves. After that, I joined the club called.

However, my abilities have said that no one will call them more than “usable.”

During my speech at the State Conference at the BPA, I stood behind the podium for a long time I looked at my onloos, looking at the audience, something that made an effort. If you were playing.So how did I go to where I am today? How I’m behind it:

I am not going to shatter around-the best factor is direct experience of speeches. However, there was something else … and something was

At the beginning of 2013, I began work.

When I started, I was embarrassed to do it when my roommates were at home; I had to wait for them to leave before I could record solo episodes. And when I talk to a guest on Skype, I will be nervous and constantly worry about forgetting to ask them or scream …

Today, though, I have more than 130 episodes under my belt-along with more than 120 extra episodes on.

As you probably know, there was a side effect – my ability.

I’m not going to go too far, but YouTube videos have a similar impact on my public appearances. In fact, it’s even more direct, than a swing since the audience can.

By the way, if you want to become a more public speaker, here is the video (with


Before moving from this prizewilty long slip over why indirect experience is so useful, I want to warn you of one potential drop:

The ability to build confidence and skills on the basis of appropriate skills is very useful, but it is a double-edged sword. Some people have deceived themselves, thinking that they are progressing in a way when they achieve their goals in reality and gain confidence much more quickly, in the face of their fears and bouncing head-first into this great skill ..

I fell victim to the same lost people in my life-even during my childhood …

When I was 8 years old, I got my first Game Boy Color and a copy of Pokémon Blue …

From the moment I played the game, I was on the hook, but I was in some kind of trouble too. You see, I’m one of those people who just have.

This is a perfectly good solution in the long run, but the point is that the Charmander is not very useful for rock-type Pokémon-what is what the first gym, Brock, uses …

As a child, I thought I had the perfect strategy to overcome this problem:

-I’ll train at your hours-I will train and build my Pokemon for so long that I will crush the Brock.

If I had decided to fight with Brock before, I would probably lose once or twice, I’m sure. But it’s not a problem-when you lose, you just wake up in the middle of Pokémon, not worse for wear …

In the end, I would have won. Even if it was the skin of my teeth, I would have pocused my Bulderbeil and would have been on my way-and that would have been much earlier. Instead of spending time on shredding in the early areas, I would be able to move to areas where progress is much faster …

In later walkthroughs, this is the exact strategy I used. I don’t want to.And that’s how I’m approaching the real life skills. If I’m sure I’m not gonna lose that much trying to do something, I’ll try. And that’s exactly what you’re supposed to do …

Like Mark Victor Hansen put him in his book.

” Don’t wait for it to be all right. She’s never gonna be perfect. There will always be problems, obstacles and less than ideal conditions. Well, that’s it. Go on. With each step you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skillful, more and more confident and more and more successful. “Don’t spend too much time on secondary areas – before you think you’re ready, find a way to jump in the main skills. It’s gonna be stress-related, it’s gonna be hard, and it’s gonna be scary. But the same.

If you want to move faster, you don’t do this by making a noise, you do it, you sleep it off until you’re ready …

If you want a bench for the press, you don’t do it by taking a bunch of upus-ups-you do it by giving yourself a bench more weight every week ..

If you want to be a great speaker, you can’t just sit in your room and roll. It may be useful, as I mentioned, but in the end you have to get on stage and say …

Do it sooner rather than later …

“You wouldn’t worry about what people think about you if they knew how rarely they were doing.”

Let me ask you a question: when do you have to get up on stage to talk, or shake hands with this new person, or to demonstrate the skill you taught in front of people, what scripts are running around the head?

If you’re something like me, at least one of these scripts is:

” I will screw up and everyone will be angry. They probably hate me for being … Perhaps all of them have brought rotten products, and I will probably have to resurrecate my basic skills at school. “.

Here’s another one, a related question: What goes through your head when you see a hot person 1010 you’d like to ask on a date.

-I can’t invite her, she’ll think I’m a sliver, and I think I’m gonna have a drink on her face. All her friends will probably laugh at me. And I’m sure I’ll spontaneously burst into flames. “.

Our brains have evolved.

Last time.

If you are not a complete tool, the answer to both of these questions is

Moreover, I am sure that you rarely, if ever, see anyone else. This is the implementation of the key:

When they’re in public, people have quite a couple of states:

  • Normal/medium/whatevs.
  • That realization struck me as a ton of bricks when I was in college. In the days of big speech, everyone in the class had to lie, get up to the front of the room, and make a speech …

    Several of the men in this class were.

    Everyone else, from simple to … well … not so great. And since I was sitting in a class, watching every one of these less zheats (I mean literally this time instead of being a euphemism), I looked around the audience. What I saw was … utterly prisable.

    Some people have been polite. Some people have fought back. Some people sneeily looking at their phones …

    No man has done anything that could be perceived as an attack on the host. That’s because.As soon as I realized something,

    ” I have no reason not to put myself in the place, because no one is going to dock me if I fail. If I’m good, I’ll blind them. If I don’t, they won’t remember me …It’s simple, but it’s powerful. People have two states:

    Once I realized that other people would either be blind or indifferent, I came to understand a couple of things …

    First of all, I realized that people spend most of their time in a state of no different condition. This is simply a consequence of normal daily life-everything becomes routine, it doesn’t change much, and many of the actions you experience are not quite “fun.” They’re mostly obligations or habits …

    Alternatively, the default behavior for most situations is

    Second of all, I realized that people.

    Who are the people who usually create new and exciting new things? We’ll call it a few:

  • Business entrepreneurs.
  • Excursions for museum excursions.All these people have one thing in common:
  • Realizing that people are greedy for novelty and excitement, the next implementation for me was this.

    Now I had three pieces of a puzzle:

  • People are either “fur” or “blind”.
  • People want to be dazzling.Confided people can be blinded by better than insecure people.
  • By putting them together, I came to this conclusion on how to proceed further:

    This seems obvious, but for some reason deliberately claiming that it helps me act more confidently. And, acting confidently and getting good results from it, I really am.

    But it raises the question … how do you act with confidence when you really don’t feel that way? Well, here’s an example of how I do it …

    To give you a story: a few weeks ago, my girlfriend Anna and I came to the Minnesota Renaissance festival. While we were there, we decided to catch a couple of planned shows that bet on …

    The first one was a standard comedy routine; two guys got up on the stage, told a bunch of jokes and got a bunch of kids.

    And you wouldn’t know, I was a happy guy in the crowd to make the most popular participation of all. In the end, it led me to put a bra on my head in front of more than 100 people, giving my best.

    I’ll be honest – when I was younger, I was there.

    Now, however, I’m a little confident and comfortable in making it look stupid. Besides, as I looked at the listener, I realized that hundreds of people were paying the money in front of me. They wanted to have a good time …

    And yet, I stand there and feel a little ridiculous. So here’s the process of intellectual development that I went to afford a little bit.

    First of all, I did.

    Then I asked myself

    “What would this totally stereotypical person do in this situation?”

    Well, it’s probably …

  • Use the small, reserved gestures of
  • Avoid contact with people in the auditorium.
  • Keep an eye on the performers to guide his actions.
  • As soon as I list these things to myself, I remind myself what will happen if I act like that. Specifically, audience members are just thinking.

    I told myself it was the worst thing that could happen. As soon as it was established, I came to the last step:

    Even though I felt stupid (and I was a little scared), I stepped in as someone more confident. I told myself that if I could just surpass a stereotypical man in my head, people in the audience would be happier and have a better time …

    And that’s exactly what I did. I acted like a complete fool, impromptu, and eventually fun-with everyone else on the stage and in the audience …

    The last two were to make changes to your way of thinking; by contrast, it implies actual practice. It’s simple, too …

    When you get something standing, record it. Make a note of this …

    I did it in two different ways, both of which are useful. First of all, I tried to keep it.

    At the end of every day, I will make a new note and write all the work I have done. If something’s wrong, I got him.I don’t do it anymore because I found this.

  • I’m watching the last of the goals, as well as their dates, to remind myself to keep moving forward.
  • When I do, I will.
  • If you want to learn more about the concept of the Unpossible List, here is the video I did:

    Whether you decide to create a journal of achievement, a possible list or something else, the principle is the same-if you can look back on your past achievements, you will be able to see a specific report on your ability to overcome the challenges ..

    This entry will help you to confirm the fact that you are.

    This last piece of advice is a little different, because it takes away your trick and puts it in.

    “Speak more slowly, say less, smile more and concentrate on another man.”

    In fact, your main goal in any interpersonal situation should be reoriented with,.

  • I’m listening.
  • I ask for good follow-up questions.
  • reacted with enthusiasm and laughing.
  • Abandon any one of them.
  • Smile more, speaking slower, and so on.
  • Think about the last time you were talking to someone who did it. How are their reactions and manisms make you feel? It’s probably a million bucks, right? “The deepest principle in human nature is the desire to be valuable.”

    As a result, accepting this practice in your interactions, you will be many friends. It’s a recipe for becoming.

    However, what may be surprising is that this practice will help you become more.

    Once you have the real proof that you can have a great deal of interaction without trying to look good or something that someone said, you will start to feel.

    Are you looking for more tips?

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